You understand exactly what you're doing.
You just can't seem to stop.
Certified IFS therapist providing virtual intensive therapy for highly self-aware adults in Maryland and Northern Virginia who are tired of being controlled by anxiety, perfectionism, self-criticism, people-pleasing, and patterns they already understand.
You've read the books. You've listened to the podcasts. You've done the therapy. You know where your patterns came from. You can explain your childhood, identify your triggers, name your attachment style, and recognize exactly when you're slipping into people-pleasing.
And somehow... you still do it.
You say yes when you mean no. You replay conversations long after they're over. You can sense someone else's disappointment before they've even said a word. You carry responsibilities nobody asked you to carry. You keep telling yourself you'll slow down after this next deadline, this next project, this next season.
And when you finally have a moment to rest, your mind doesn't know how.
You're not falling apart. You're exhausted from holding yourself together.
IFS helps us go beneath intellectual understanding and work directly with the parts of you that learned these patterns for good reason.
IFS Therapy For People Who've Already Done The Work
- You've been in therapy and are ready to go deeper
- You hold it together because falling apart isn't something you've ever been allowed to do
- The people around you needed you to be okay, so you were
- You're navigating a transition or turning point you're ready to address directly
- You want concentrated, immersive work, not the slow drip of weekly sessions
- You're a clinician or coach who wants to experience IFS from the inside
- You're ready to invest in real movement rather than wait for it
- You understand your patterns but still can't stop them in the moment
- You keep losing yourself in people-pleasing, over-functioning, or perfectionism
- You became the strong one not by choice, but because someone had to be
- You learned early that your needs took up too much space
- You've spent so long making yourself smaller that you've forgotten how much space you're actually allowed to take up
- You became the strong one because someone had to be and it's become the only verison of yourself you know how to be
Maybe you've become very good at being the person everyone can count on.
You're the one who remembers. The one who handles it. The one who thinks ahead. The one who notices when something is off. The one people call when there's a problem.
At work, you're competent. At home, you're dependable.
To everyone else, you're probably doing fine.
But privately...
You wonder when life became something you were constantly managing instead of actually experiencing. You have trouble turning your mind off. You don't know what you want until you've figured out what everyone else needs. You crave rest but feel guilty when you take it. You want to be more spontaneous, playful, creative, and present, but you're always thinking about what needs to happen next.
And sometimes you wonder: "Is this just who I am now?"
Is This You?
You are highly self-aware. You've done work on yourself:
therapy, coaching, personal development, all of it.
You can name your patterns. You understand where they came from.
And you are exhausted by the fact that you still can't stop them.
You over-function when you're stressed. You say yes when you mean no.
You disappear into other people's needs and find yourself
somewhere far from yourself. You think more than you feel.
You perfect more than you rest.
Weekly therapy moves too slowly for where you are.
You're ready for something concentrated, immersive, and real.
This is for the person who is done
waiting for weekly therapy to get there.
Who This Is For
Into the people pleasing, the perfectionism, the overthinking, the self-doubt.
The moment someone needs something and you immediately abandon what you were feeling to take care of it.
That disconnection isn't a character flaw; it's a pattern that developed for good reason and has now been running the show ever since.
An IFS intensive is where that pattern finally meets something stronger than itself.
Imagine finally being able to stay connected to yourself in the moments you usually disappear.
Imagine having space between what happens and how you respond.
You notice the urge to say yes and realize you can choose.
You notice the anxiety and don't immediately organize your entire life around it.
You can rest without feeling like you're doing something wrong.
You make decisions with clarity instead of fear.
You stop spending hours inside conversations that ended yesterday.
You have energy left for the people and things you actually love.
You laugh more. You create again. You become curious again.
You feel grounded in yourself instead of constantly monitoring the room.
And slowly, something changes: You stop performing your life and start inhabiting it.
What Becomes Possible With An IFS Intensive
There's a difference between knowing why you people please and actually sitting with the part of you that learned it was the only way to be loved. Between understanding your perfectionism intellectually and feeling what it's been protecting underneath.
IFS doesn't treat your patterns as problems to eliminate. It treats them as parts of you that developed for good reason and have been working overtime ever since. In an intensive, we go toward those parts with curiosity and care. We understand what they've been carrying. And as they feel genuinely met, often for the first time, they begin to relax.
That's what shifts in this work that years of talking about it rarely reaches.
Most therapy asks you to understand yourself, but IFS asks you to meet yourself.
What's On The Other Side of an IFS Intensive
I built this intensive container because I know what it feels like
to understand your patterns completely and still find yourself doing the same thing again.
IFS (Internal Family Systems) is the modality that changed that for me and for the clients I work with. Not because it teaches you something new. It's because it goes somewhere insight alone can't reach.
I am a Certified IFS Therapist, LCPC in Maryland, LPC in Virginia, National Certified Counselor, and a Board Approved Supervisor in Maryland with 15+ years of clinical counseling experience. I work with a small number of intensive clients at a time.
My approach is rooted in IFS, culturally conscious, and deeply personal. I don't believe therapy is about fixing you. I believe it's about coming home to yourself and building a life that actually feels worth living, not just worth showing.
Kiara Hartwell Opara
LCPC · LPC · NCC
Meet The Therapist
After your ifs therapy intensive has concluded, we will schedule your 60-90 minute post-intensive session. You can expect this session to happen 1-2 weeks after the intensive.
In this session, we will discuss optional ongoing therapy and recommendations/resources.
After Your IFS Intensive
During your ifs therapy intensive, we will start with settling, preparing, and orienting your system to the space.
Once oriented, we will begin our focus work following the pace of your system.
You can expect to take breaks as needed - usually up to (2) 15 minutes breaks for a half day intensive.
For a full day (6 hour) intensive, you can expect to take a lunch break or extended break midway (30-60 minutes) with shorter breaks (10-15 minutes) as needed throughout the day.
During Your IFS Intensive
You'll send an email to kiara@kjhartwell.com to express your interest in an ifs therapy intensive. Share with me a little about what brings you here and what you're hoping to work on.
Once I've received your email, we will schedule a date for your 90 minute pre-intensive session ($325). Following the confirmation of our pre-intensive session, I will send you intake paperwork to be completed 48 hours prior to the session.
The 90 minute pre-intensive session is where we begin with taking a thorough history, understanding your parts landscape, and determining which intensive format is right for you (half day, full day, multi-day).
After your 90 minute pre-intensive session, we will schedule your intensive dates, you will sign the ifs therapy intensive contract, and your payment for the intensive will be processed. Payments are due in full, 48 hours prior to the start time of the intensive.
Your workbook will arive 5-7 days before we begin.
Before Your IFS Intensive
What Happens Before, During, & After an IFS Therapy Intensive?
All pricing includes post-intensive call.
90 minute pre-intensive call is $325 and credited toward your intensive selection.
1 day · 6 hours · $2,400
2 days · 12 hours · $4,200
3 days · 18 hours · $6,000
Available on weekdays
FULL DAY
1 half-day · 3 hours · $1,500
2 half-days · 6 hours · $2,400
Available on weekdays
HALF-DAY
IFS therapy intensives are available in several formats depending on what you're hoping to accomplish and how much concentrated time feels appropriate. Most clients choose a one-, two-, or three-day intensive, with sessions ranging from three to six hours per day. We'll determine the best format during your pre-intensive consultation
Most people who invest in an ifs therapy intensive have spent years in weekly therapy making incremental progress. An intensive isn't a replacement for that work, it's an acceleration of it.
Three hours of concentrated IFS can move something that has been stuck for years.
Intensives are private pay only. No insurance. No sliding scale. This is intentional. The container works because both of us are fully committed to the work.
Extended intensives may be available for particularly complex or layered work by consultation.
Choose the amount of uninterrupted space
your work needs:
How Long Is An IFS Intensive?
For the clinicians, counselors, social workers, psychologists, psychiatrists, and caregivers who spend their lives holding space for others and deserve a space that holds them.
Therapy For Therapists & Helping Professionals
For the mind that won't quiet down. We go beneath the anxiety to understand the parts driving it and build a relationship with yourself that doesn't require constant vigilance.
Therapy For Anxiety & Perfectionism
For the ones who look successful on the outside and feel empty on the inside. We work with the patterns of over-functioning, perfectionism, and the exhaustion of always being the capable one.
Therapy For Adults Ready To Stop Losing Themselves
Below are a list of focus areas that clients tend to resonate with.
Areas of Focus
The Pillar: The one everyone leans on
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The Achiever: Driven, capable, & quietly exhausted
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The Diplomat: Keeping the peace at the cost of yourself
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The Sentinel: Always watching & always on guard
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The Architect: Building control to feel safe
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